Ilene Cantos

Philadelphia, PA
@ischermcan
Survivor
Twist on Cancer: Two-time survivor. Reformed perfectionist. Relentless connector.

I’m a two-time cancer survivor — but cancer didn’t define me; it refined me. It gave me perspective, forced me to slow down, and helped me shed the perfectionism I once clung to. Today, I proudly call myself a reformed perfectionist, a deeply involved mother, a loving wife, and a devoted daughter who’s learned to lead with grace, not pressure.

But survivorship isn’t a finish line — it’s a roller coaster. I still live with the ongoing reality of lymphedema, daily medications, and the ever-present undercurrent of anxiety that cancer can leave behind. Some days are easier than others, but I’ve learned to ride the highs and lows with more compassion — especially toward myself.

Through organizations like Sharsheret, Jefferson, and Unite for HER, I’ve become a breast cancer “buddy,” supporting others through the same storm I once faced. It’s not just something I do — it’s a calling. I see it as a privilege to walk alongside newly diagnosed women, not just as a survivor, but as a friend who truly understands.

After my initial conversation with these women, I always follow up with an email full of local nonprofits, free resources, support groups, and wellness tools. As a Wharton MBA, I take pride in being resourceful — some might even say I’m a bit of a detective when it comes to tracking down answers, deals, or hard-to-find services. I love helping my buddies access discounted wigs, mastectomy bras, and anything that helps them feel like themselves again. I’m a seasoned bargain shopper with a knack for finding what people need — often before they even ask. It’s my way of showing love: through information, connection, and care.

This artwork reflects not just my story, but the strength, softness, and sense of service that emerged from it — and continues to evolve with every twist and turn of the journey.